Growing up in an unhealthy home environment looks like:
Not being mirrored or seen or acknowledged in your basic existence.
Not being nurtured in your body, not being shown how to eat properly, not being shown how to express physicality.
Not being heard or listened to as someone of importance in the household.
Being dismissed in your expressions both positive and negative.
Being brought up in an environment where you need to prove your right to exist.
Being made to feel like you’ve failed before you even started.
Not being met where you are wounded.
Not being taught self reliance and simultaneously not being protected through healthy or necessary dependence on your caregiver.
Being made to feel like your basic needs are a burden or an inconvenience on the family.
Being mirrored in a negative light is the norm unless it is complimentary to your caregiver to do otherwise.
Being made to feel responsible and accountable for your own failed nurturance. E.g. being made fun of for being unhealthy, not having nice clothes to wear etc.
Being unseen, unheard, unrecognized in your right to want, need, express or defend yourself.
Being made to feel like any emotion on your part is unwanted and/or excessive.
Being used for company when there’s no one else around but being discarded when there are others.