Let be the mess of it.
Including yours.
If something’s not sitting quite well with you.
If there’s a push and pull.
Let it be.
Don’t try to steer it in any one direction.
Let it reveal itself to you in it’s own time.
Or dissolve into nothing.
You don’t have to mentally hold onto it.
Ruminate or keep score.
You don’t have to live there.
Let it be, but don’t live there.
Come back here.
To the peace that surpasses all understanding.
To the grace that is ever present.
To the love that won’t explain itself, but will just keep on giving.
Even in the most dire of circumstances, life doesn’t have to be dreary, gloomy, heavy, depressing, or a load to bear.
It can be a time to lean in even more. Soften even more.
Into resourcing, rest, simplicity, vulnerability, gentleness, slowness, self-care.
Not as a spiritual bypass but in the sense of life not being a problem.
And you can choose not to re-traumatize yourself.
You can choose to put the oxygen mask on yourself first, before reaching out for the other. That’s true help. True love.
For it is not your job to protect others from their own pain.
But to give time and space for everything to reveal itself to you.
That’s not arrogance.
Living in your own integrity is not arrogance.
Processing in whatever way is healing for you is not arrogance.
Being supported and feeling supported is not arrogance.
Don’t let others’ behavior dictate how you live your own life.
Freedom includes not letting the limitations of others hold you back from your fullest expression of Love.
Not the love of sweetness but the love of Truth.
For it takes true courage, true strength to remain kind and soft even with the most unruly of them all. Something inside you won’t like that. It will fight that. Say it’s a weakness to show kindness when kindness is not shown to me! It will struggle.
But the struggle will pass. And in greater kindness and in greater strength you will remain.
That’s where you’ll find yourself and everybody else.
Don’t try to come to conclusions. There are none.
For in the end, we’re put back in the earth and it concludes it all for us.
The final conclusion that puts an end to all the messes. All the grievances. All that was ‘hanging in the air’ – unresolved. Goes to rest.
So live like this now.
That’s what it means to stay open.
To be available.
To not take a stance.
But be stance-less.
For rest assured every stance will be put to rest from the most heinous to the most noble.
And what will remain.